Numberless TV talk shows have taken into consideration this topic when they interviewed TV stars, actors and singers. Who suffers the most then parents decide to break up? The answer is obvious: children do so, especially if they at a very young age and don't fully understand what is going on around them. If your child is at the age when he fully understands reality and is aware of the fact that instead of living in a tensed environment, where argues and fights are the lait motif of each day he would rather be just with his mother or father but much more relaxed.
But what do you do if your child is only three and the first thing he wants to know when he sees you is when daddy is coming back home. How do you explain him that daddy has an affair with another woman
and he wants to marry her or that he has been abusing you physically and you couldn't stand it anymore?
Children always tend to blame the mothers for everything wrong that may happen in a marriage. Mum is guilty for the divorce because she always asks too much from her husband and he decides to leave. There are cases when women are also to blame for the divorce but they are only exceptions which emphasize the general rule which claims men can't be loyal and in 90% of the marriages they cheat on their wives, even if it just one time in their lives.
If you choose to explain your child why father is not coming back home you have to try and stay as objective as possible, to use proper words for his age and to spare him of the insignificant "details" what could mark his future. There are times when you are obliged to make up a story because your child doesn't perceive the meaning of the word "mistress" or "to cheat".
When the right time comes you will be able to tell him the whole story and he will be mature enough to understand everything without putting you in the position of remembering everything.
Who Suffers The Most After a Divorce? written by Herminne Tonita for FamousWhy.com
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